I think, by any standard it is unacceptable to paint our sisters, children and wives devilishly dark. It is even questionable if most of the above postings are even legal. It is something some of the negativities about women (targeting the Ethiopian women) are poured out, and in someways could be therapeutic, that some get relieved, I don’t have a scant doubt some of the guys like Mr Assta should seek a psychological therapy anyway. I can also question if some of the postings wouldn’t embolden even more and more men to commit more murders targeting our sisters. What kind of woman would stand a person whose mind is entangled with ignorance like some of the negative postings here. You here and there mention religion, national sentiment which I found it to be so insulting, that for the sake of our name and country, the moderator of this forum and everyone of us should condemn such deceits.

To make things simple some of you out there be calm, murdering by any means is not a solution. For what we give we will receive it back, if we give our wives love it will reciprocate. If we tame our wife she will be our asset, but otherwise they can become beast on us. If things do not work out, it is not the end of the world, there are a lot of counsellings service either online or with face to face appearance. A lot of free materials are on the internet to tackle our difficulties if some can’t afford counsellings. The problem with Mr Assta is he allows himself into picking all the bad apples, and this will create more of these. The most challenging task for most of us is to pick the goodness in people. Mr Assta please refrain from perpetuating satanic imaginations about women and the world as a whole. In this way you will stop prompting more and more damage to more innocent Ethiopians.

Bod bless

I must say that you are a person who deserves great respect, Thanks

the intent and purpose still is to investigate and find the root cause of these ethiopian women who were murdured by ethiopian men.i read your comments about this issue and u focused on only one of the many factors which can cause this tragedy.your conclusion basd on one factor seems to sound baist and absurd and tend to overlook many shovenist and ignorant ethiopian men conducts.in clear sense the punishment doesn’t fit the crime.these women don’t deserve to be murdered.

i am willing to listen you part of arguments under one condition that is when you avoid making arguments by injecting God.bring adequte reasoning to charm my mind and eventually conviencing me.in this way we can avoid violant verbal exchange.”give me firm ideas and fulcrum ,and i alone can move the earth” i borrowed this quot from early greek philosopher. in any event,we have presumabily one thing in common. both of us love our country. i thank you your consistance responses.

I think you both are confident in your opinions, I don’t want to trigger another argument here but just wanted to comment Dear Mr Assta, I am very impressed by the way of your writting but I must warn you that you have crossed the line a little bit, Christianity is not appreciating yourself, comparing your knowledge of sprituality against your brother’s or sister’s ignorance if there is any, many Holy Fathers through our Church history has built our Church not by the power of their knowledge but by the power of love, innocence and seeing themselves rather less than anyone they encountered, they never told the world that they are enlightened but prayed for the world, we know that Jesus Christ has never criticized anyone more than the Pharises, not because they were of different race but because they saw themselves better than other people, our Christianity in our generation is only surviving because of the innocence of our fathers because many of the children of our Church are seeing themselves or let me say seeing ourselves as better than anyone who is outside of our religion. Please, as a fellow Orthodox Christian, I urge you not to criticize people but just tell your point in a good polite Christian manner with complete love, if you think the person in argument with you is someone who will never understand you, pray for him. Our great Saint Abune TekleHaimanot of Debre Libanos was known for his polite manner that he has once stopped the Arch Angel Michael not to destroy the evil spirits who were tempting him day and night but rather he said, “if this makes them happy, let them do it, they can’t get my soul but my body”, see, this is Orthodox Christianity, Saints like Abune GebreMenfes Kidus of Ziquala has series of stories of innocence and politeness in their lives on earth. Regarding the sisters we are losing these days, we all know that and some of us have even experienced the anger our Ethiopian sisters we need in our life as partners in love are creating in us, the western attitude they worship is also changing the minds of our brothers, as a person who lives in the States, I have cut my hope of finding a soul mate since the majority of women have stopped being ladies, its becoming like dating a man, even though nothing can’t be justified by killing someone, we must also pray for the killers or who are already destined to murder someone, killing is the work of the satan and never try to jusify the evil deed done against you by commiting evil yourself, as for me, If I get into a relationship, I want to experience the fragile body, the innocent mind and romantic soul of a woman who can make me love my house, who can make me think about her while at work and who can make me wish to see and hug her and kiss her rather than thinking of my house as a concentration camp with a woman in a vampirism attitude inside. So, one day, I will go to my mother land, offer “shama or tuaf or etan” to my favorite Church and beg the Almighty Lord to give me my left bone back. I appreciate you for taking your time to read my comment and fantasy and I love you all and ELIAS, keep up the good job of being a Nightmare of the Woyannes.
Cheers

You have tried to do your homework, but your homework is still incomplete because to your homework you have added one unnecessary word “barking.”

Humans created in the image of God do not bark like a dog or wisha or Kelbi; instead, they talk, shout, laugh, cry, teach, preach, sing, and praise; just that one word “barking” has destroyed everything, good or bad, you have been trying to convince me by bringing the issue forward, which is a good discovery in your part just as I have told you to do so.

Second, you ask me an impossible question, and that is, not to use the word God, which means you want me to live in a godless world like you. This also shows that the spirit within you does not want to hear the word God; when it does, I assume, it makes it tremble or uncomfortable to stay with you. If I were you, I would let it go, because I do not want to have an evil spirit as my companion; I rather prefer to be possessed by the Holy Ghost to the unfriendly bad spirit.

Yes, I can see you are judging someone’s moral value and knowledge of understanding issues before examining your own short fallings; indeed, you are the one who is playing shenanigans with vacuous words out of the blue.

You don’t even understand the difference between “manifesto” and comment; I have never written any manifesto or edict or bull in my life because I have never been an emperor or a king or a pope. Of course, I have commented many times on different issues, and one of the issues I have commented about is that an idle woman cheats on her hard-working husband when she sees he is not meeting her sexual desire; she does not understand that he has been working the whole day while she has been seating and gossiping with her girl friends. To explain in detail about the deception of a woman (can be any woman), I went to the source of the first deception by our mother Hewan or Eve. The whole point here is that most Ethiopian husbands do not murder their wives unless their wives have cheated on their husbands. Most of us Ethiopian men are very jealous about our wives that we don’t want to see them cheating on us; we are not like the western man though our wives try to be westernized, so the causes of the killings of those beautiful Ethiopian girls might be marital infidelity or something else. And this is my own opinion and no one else’s.

I do not have any ill feelings about you; both of us may have different approaches to different topics, but we are all one in Jesus Christ, our personal savior and the redeemer of the world. Whether you like it or not, I will never stop preaching the word of God to my Ethiopian friends and to others.

Grow up and try to identify the good from the bad and the bad from the good; I’m sure you are the product of an evil generation that needs forgiveness from the Almighty God.

In your previous pointless comment, you used the words “paradox, fake,” and “dude,” and now you have added some other meaningless words to the discussion such as “legacy, evil, nightmare, superficial, contradiction, insight, therapy,” and “holy water.” What ever words you would like to use, you are still unable to bring forward the kernel of the issue which is trust or mistrust between a husband and a wife. Let me hear what you think about this issue, and I will give you plenty of time until you do your homework.

By the way, I don’t need the holy water to sanctify me from my original sin; what I need is the Holy Spirit, the true sanctifier and redeemer of the whole world, and I’m sure if you resort to the Holy Spirit, not to the holy water, he will enlighten you about the main topic of our discussion, but I don’t think he needs you though because you are too conceited, stubborn, and unqualified to have the grace of God.

Thank you for understanding the whole points of the discussion; as you vividly said this discussion is about trust and mistrust between a husband and a wife, and I’m trying to explain of a woman’s deception or cheating on her husband. This phenomenon is particularly true about some of the Ethiopian girls who admire western culture and degrades their own by cheating on their husbands.

Dear Comchanbawe,

You have not grasped the discussion and have failed to identify the main points of the whole issue, and if there is a contradiction between what I have said and the words of the scripture state it clearly and explain it and let me hear it.

When you are short of dictions, you have used words such as fake, dude, and what makes you think, according to your choice of the word “dude” that I’m concerned about my clothes and manners or that I’m a city boy? In my comment, I have never said about my clothes or my city life; you are not just a simpleton; in fact, you are a harum-scarum person – a confused person who needs help in understanding the Scripture and the view points of the commentator.If there is an Ethiopian Orthodox Church around you, go there and be member of the Sunday school class and learn the Bible diligently.

God’s first command to Adam and Eve was to have sex and fill the earth with billions and billions of people (Genesis 1:2), and the man was very happy that he had a companion, a helper, whom he declared: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh….” (Genesis 2:23) After the creation, however, these individuals might have lived together in Paradise for millions and millions of years, but we do not know for sure for how many years they had spent together before the woman destroyed everything God created for good, including the healthy sex.

The first adultery ever committed on this earth started with the woman in Paradise when she was seduced by the smooth and flattering words of the good-looking and deceptive Serpent to break God’s eternal law by eating the fruit from the forbidden tree, so that she and her husband would become like God, who created them out of the dust. From that time on, after she was cursed that she must be submissive to her husband, she was forced with her husband out of her original home – the paradise.

Following her foot-steps, most of her daughters have become, instead of helpers, cheaters, deceivers, and the most pollutant of the original sex, God’s divine gift to both man and woman. Because a woman had polluted that original sex, we continue to produce abnormal, mentally retarded, and defective children; for example, Adolf Hitler, Benito Mussolini, and Meles Zenawi are the products of defective sex, a sex polluted by the original sin committed by the first Lady of the Paradise kingdom – Hewan or Eve, and until the last day of creation, a woman’s deception or cheating on her husband will continue because cheating or deception is a hereditary thing originated from Eve.

This is just a brief introduction to my dear Mestewat or Anonymous who believes in research but produced or mentioned any single research on what she/he has stated that my assertion about sexual desire in an idle woman and a working husband is different. My assertion is based on personal experience and on the experiences of others, and I ask you which research you are talking about that suggests “some men are in fact sex maniacs and would rape their wives….”? Is making love with one’s own wife considered rape?

A woman is supposed to fulfill her husband’s sexual desire and the same thing is true with the husband, and that is what St. Paul says: “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband” and in the same way with the husband’s body (1 Corinthians 7:4).

Yes, modern women gossip a lot and go around, forcing men to have sex with them, and it depends the way you interpret “force” here: there is a physical force and there is psychological force to have sex, and many women use both. There are some women still in jail for having sex with minors by physically forcing the boys to sleep with them, and there are, perhaps, millions of women who purposely force themselves available for sex by showing their half-covered bodies to the young boys and seducing them to commit sex with them. This is an irresistible psychological force a woman uses to trap an innocent man who has no sexual desire before but forces him to sleep with her.

Talking about a hard-working person and an idle woman is completely different from talking about sex just for the sake of having sex with someone. A hard-working person works the whole day and comes home to get some rest; however, his wife who has been seating the whole day, gossiping with her girl friends, expects her husband to have sex with her; he will not do it because he has been working the whole day. Then, the woman gets angry and disparages her husband as a sexually dysfunctional or weak person, so the solution for her misery, she thinks, is to cheat on him, and he kills her, or leaves his home, abandoning her and his children. So how do you solve the sex problem between the hard-working person and the idle wife who does not care about the hard work of her husband but only cares about her sexual gratification?

My name is indeed Assta B. Gettu, and I’m sorry for the sisters who lost their lives for whatever reasons or causes; I’m a loving, successful, happy, real person, and enemy of Woyanne. Life in America and at home has been great for me, and I’m thankful to God for his immeasurable blessings. If you are a failure, let me know, so that I can give you some hints to the mystery of success.

Blessings to you!

Your assertion is based on on hear say blame blaming and wild generalizations of no validity.

Lots of research suggests the fact that some men are in fact sex maniacs and would rape their wives and girl friends reapetedely even againt their readiness and willingness to have sex too frequantly. Now days these phenomena have become criminalized and court cases to protect house wives against their “over active” husbands.

Women don’t go around forcing and raping husbands against their will or force strage men in to sexual intercourse. Women may naturally seduce and have relationships or softely urge their partners for the fulfilments of their basic biological human need.

Some men may need more sex than others in the same way that some women may need more sex than other women.

The need for sex just like the need for food and drink is ja natural biological basic human need that must be satisfied as long as humans are in existance and healthy beings.

But in practice various life stress situations and unpleasant and unhealthy life and living conditions may dramatically reduce the natural and noraml apetite and thirst for normal and regular sex. What is regular and standard for one may be a substandard and irregular rythm of intercourse.

What may be judged as substandard and miserably irregular intercourse may be seen as too much of a sex maniac and boring sexual aggression. So, the idea is that it all depends on the matching and mismatching of the people in relationships.

It may also be negotiated through open discussion, understanding and conscious adjustment and match making effort even using expert therapists. The phenomena is in all cultures, religions and ethnicities as it is only basic human needs.

4 B.C,

So you think that it is only old men who think and reason like Asst B.Gettu.(17#)

I think that you are wrong. There some men who think like that irespective of their age, religion, gender and marital status. Your assertion that implies only old men think this way is just wild guess perhaps only because you are not old yourself or even perhaps may be a woman. Lots of old men have strong sympathy and strong support for womens rights and freedom.

So please adress the issue rather than spreading biased and wild generalizations and kill your own otherwise good points of argument. Remember also that lots of old men have good loving mothers, good loving wives and good loving daughters perahaps more than young boys and girls.

Your assertion is based on on hear say blame blaming and wild generalizations of no validity.

Lots of research suggests the fact that some men are in fact sex maniacs and would rape their wives and girl friends reapetedely even againt their readiness and willingness to have sex too frequantly. Now days these phenomena have become criminalized and court cases to protect house wives against their “over active” husbands.

Women don’t go around forcing and raping husbands against their will or force strage men in to sexual intercourse. Women may naturally seduce and have relationships or softely urge their partners for the fulfilments of their basic biological human need.

Some men may need more sex than others in the same way that some women may need more sex than other women.

The need for sex just like the need for food and drink is ja natural biological basic human need that must be satisfied as long as humans are in existance and healthy beings.

But in practice various life stress situations and unpleasant and unhealthy life and living conditions may dramatically reduce the natural and noraml apetite and thirst for normal and regular sex. What is regular and standard for one may be a substandard and irregular rythm of intercourse.

What may be judged as substandard and miserably irregular intercourse may be seen as too much of a sex maniac and boring sexual aggression. So, the idea is that it all depends on the matching and mismatching of the people in relationships.

It may also be negotiated through open discussion, understanding and conscious adjustment and match making effort even using expert therapists. The phenomena is in all cultures, religions and ethnicities as it is only basic human needs.

4 B.C,

So you think that it is only old men who think and reason like Asst B.Gettu.(17#)

I think that you are wrong. There some men who think like that irespective of their age, religion, gender and marital status. Your assertion that implies only old men think this way is just wild guess perhaps only because you are not old yourself or even perhaps may be a woman. Lots of old men have strong sympathy and strong support for womens rights and freedom.

So please adress the issue rather than spreading biased and wild generalizations and kill your own otherwise good points of argument. Remember also that lots of old men have good loving mothers, good loving wives and good loving daughters perahaps more than young boys and girls.

You should directly address your unsubstantiated comment to me rather than to the editor whose duty is to publish a person’s opinion, agreeable or disagreeable to you without any bias.

You better clarify your points than using offensive remarks and rather than trying to advise the editor not to publish comments like mine; you should know the ER editor is more advanced in his thinking, and more educated than you are, Mr. Advisor. Advise yourself and come clean of your narrow mindedness and shortsightedness.

It is very sad you instantly post a repugnant scribble of Assta B. Gettu (No 17) which is full of unfathomable ignorance and pathological chauvinism. You really need to edit such nonsensical contributions if they are contributions at all!