The Ethiopian community in northern Virginia is in shock today after learning about the killing of Metsihet Belete, a resident of Arlington, Virginia, who is originally from Ethiopia.
Arlington Police have arrested Metsihet’s husband, Sirak Gebeyehu, 27, who is suspected of choking her to death.
Metsihet was pronounced dead Thursday afternoon after the effort by doctors to revive her for the past two days has failed.
Metsihet, 24, had been in the U.S. for the past two years. Six months ago, she had succeeded in bringing to the U.S. her husband, Sirak, and their 3-year old son Ezra, from Ethiopia, after saving enough money working as a waitress.
Metsihet had been working at Lalibela Restaurant in Arlington VA ever since she came to the U.S.
Police are investigating the motive for her killing.
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እዝህ አድርሳው ይግደላት
ሰው እኮ………
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June 6th, 2008 at 1:27 AM
እግዜር ነፍስዋን ይማራት፡ ልጁዋንም እሱ በተዓምሩ ይጠብቀው። ሰውየውንም ፈጣሪ የሚገባውን አይንፈገው።በጣም ያሳዝናል። ባሌ፡ ትዳሬ፡ ልጄ ብላ ከኢትዮጵያ ድረስ ወጪ አውጥታ አምጥታቸው ከእንግዲህ አረፍኩ ስትል ነው ይህ ሁኔታ የሚደርስባት? ያሳዝናል።
እንዴት ነው ነገሩ? የዚህ ሐገር ችግር አኛም ጋር እየተጋባ ነው ማለት ይሆን? ያስፈራል።
የኛ ነገር የለየልት ይመስላል፡ እባካችሁ ልጆቻሁን ደግ ደጉን አስተምሩዋቸው።
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June 6th, 2008 at 1:28 AM
What is with the bad news come in pairs.
My Condolences goes to her family. What is wrong with diaspora men, come on people, we need to behave as we do in our country.
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June 6th, 2008 at 1:43 AM
Shocking in deed!
What is happening to my people? We are now making the headlines in the USA for bad things, especially the new DV generation.
I feel really sad for baby Ezra. May God keep you safe and sound baby. My son’s name is also Ezra.
All of us, please let us think twice before our actions!!!
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June 6th, 2008 at 1:49 AM
Guys better to lose your temper. One of the problems
with Ethiopian diaspora women is that they want to have it
in both ways, Ethiopian and American ways. They just mixed it and makes men to lose their tempers. NO logic at all!!!
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June 6th, 2008 at 2:15 AM
Very sad and heartfelt condolences!
No blame blaming one way or the other though between the parties in such tragedies.
Mind you folks this is a period of dynamic and ongoing global and local changes specially infested with local despots and robber dictator barons making stable, viable and peaceful lives impossible for the ordinary people in their familiar homes and known supportive communities with patterns of long standing social and cultural structures.
The ordinary people being disempowered, excluded,oppressed and starved. Also socially, economically, politically made insecure thereby choosing to run in may different forms for their lives and limbs across deserts, oceans as well as the high skies.
In many cases such tragedies results in deaths and distructions of victimized good humans some where in the deserts, on the high seas, in the homes of slave lords and slave ladies, as well as through mutual violences beween the highly stressed victims themseleves as the current sad case illustrates.
For one thing, we must also remember the fact that intergenerational gaps between immigrant parents with strong back home culture and their children adapting easily to host culture can be a cuase of serious conflict within the family itself.
Secondly, gender conflict may also easily arise within the family unit whereby the role of an immigrant man who might have been a respected head of the family and authority figure back home may suffer role reversal in the western host country. Here in the host country/culture even a woman may easily assume the role of family head and a symbol of authority with all the rights and privilages as an independent, equal and free human being with her own minds and independent wills to live, love, hate, give and take, etc.
The best solution is for enlighted immigrant communities organizing and providing settlement and counselling services and helping families and individulas to be aware of the onging changes at the levels of communities, families and personal as well as their implications and how to deal with them constructively. Blame blaming and partisan warriorship or keep wondering about the tragedies solves no problem.
Normally such role reversal is a great shocke and sources of stress and violence.
Add to this all the political etc. cleavages and emmotions running high.
You informed transformational community leaders at community levels!
Dictatorship and national suffocation of freedom and liberty back home is the core and basic problem of displacement, dispertion and the multiple sufferances and tragedies that naturally follows.
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June 6th, 2008 at 7:25 AM
know this lady as i was in verginia about two years ago i am so sorry she was a nice looking girl and humbel.
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June 6th, 2008 at 7:37 AM
My heartfelt condolense goes to her son Ezra and all her families.They should be proud of her for I know her as a young hard working, reserved, typically descent Ethiopian lady.May God bless her! RIP
For the rest of us, whatever the case may be,there is no moraly reprehensible justification for such act. It is barbarian, inhuman, uncivilized, brutal act. A civilised human being of this century should believe in discussion and taking rational decisions.Don’t tell me the obvious Ethiopian’s lame excuse-”ሰይጣን አሳስቶት ነው” for one’s obvert action.We don’t have to project it on third party or on the infamous Davil.
AND AND AND we all should know that any kind of relationship (be it friendship, marriage or room-mate) is a consentual agreement between parties. If we lose the consent of one party or if one fails to respect the terms of it, the rational decision for the other party is to tell oneself that there is life after that and take his case to the proper forum for decision. LOVE is different from obsession. If you hear one say that he can’t live without the other one in a proper sense of the phrase that is a psychological problem called obsession. Let’s avoid it and try to be a RATIONAL ANIMAL .
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June 6th, 2008 at 8:06 AM
what a shocking news!!! please get us her picture if possible.
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June 6th, 2008 at 8:22 AM
Very sad! especially for the child. He lost both his parents at once. The man could have just walked out if he disagreed with the wife. Just walk out man. He must be a terribly sick person mentally to resort to killing the mother of his child, no matter how angry she may have made him. This is just incomprehensible. There can be no justification in this world for doing what he did, if he indeed is the killer. This senseless killing is just an act of evil. And he is going to be paying for it for the rest of his life because he is going to be some body’s bitch inside a U.S. jail. What a moron!
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June 6th, 2008 at 9:40 AM
The husband should rot in the hell. No matter the woman make him angry, violence against the weak is not justified. Nature allowed men to be physically stronger than women. and it is unfair to see many of our men attack poor creatures.
No wander the country is infested by thugish men harrassing anyone using their power and authority. The Ethiopian political problem is much related to the cultural and society ills in which men believe resolving their issues with power if they have a chance.
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June 6th, 2008 at 9:48 AM
Why does such cruelty happen? Why are we killing our brothers and sisters? The answer is simple: We come from a dysfunctional and bruised society that witnessed a lot of bloodshed and crime. Anger management, self control is not part and parcel of our personality. Instead, if you get hit once go get him twice is instilled in us.
The death of this hard working mother is unbearable. The so called husband must pay with his life and the kids must be cared for and with a family willing to show them love and respect so they can forget the bad.
What a loser.
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June 6th, 2008 at 9:56 AM
RIP, may God be with you.
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June 6th, 2008 at 10:58 AM
One thing I would like to say to all Ethiopian Brothers and Sisters is that It cost a lot to bury loved one ,so please find a way to help her sister now . What happened can not be revers.
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June 6th, 2008 at 11:56 AM
Guys, let us not assume such incidents would not happen at home country. For someone who has the intention of killing people could do it at any place and any time. It is unfortunate the lady has become his vicitm. Rememer anyone of us could have been his vicitm anyways. Henceforth; please do not summarily conculude that men in America loose thier temper easily for the sake of power or dominance. We have million of Ethiopian men as role model and I am proud of them. This case is a one of. My heartfelt condelence to Ezra and the family. God bless her soul.
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June 6th, 2008 at 12:19 PM
My heartfelt condolences to both her and his families, May God give them the strength to pull themselves through this epic tragedy.
Mestawet:
Even though no one knows the particulars of this tragedy, I believe you have managed to nail the problem in the head. Like you said, when bringing a male spouse to the west, the role reversal, unless handled with care and delicacy, could be tragic. As it happens this is not the first of its kind either.
Ladies:
When bringing your significant other to the west, please be understanding and tolerant by give them enough time to adjust to the culture. I know it could be very difficult and ridiculous at times to come home from a 16 hour back breaking shift and cook dinner for a spouse that’s been doing nothing except watch TV all day. But this is the untold bargain you are getting into when you pluck off a person from one culture and immerse him into another. Give them a little bit of time to adapt and soak the culture before demanding they learn to cook. Here, I would like to underline the fact that no matter what you do there will always be a few ignorant and abusive individuals, but most of Ethiopians are smart and adaptive, given time.
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June 6th, 2008 at 12:58 PM
This is a very sad news. I go to Lalibela quite often and I am sure I would recognize the girl if I saw her picture. Blame blame does not work. Those who rush into blaming him or her are showing lack of proper understanding as we all do not know what goes on between them. Murdering is hard to justify morally (unless, for many, in self defense), many men/women lose control of their own emotion and react violently during altercations. The change in living condition, culture, and life style after moving to the U.S. also contribute a lot. I have seen several of my own friends becoming emotional and reacting violently shortly after moving to the U.S. I myself, a once calm and composed personality, lose temper occassionally after going through some dynamic changes in this country. [Do not worry. I am still calm by the way] We need to be aware of these changes and try to control our temper.
I am sure he deeply regrets what he has done although it changes nothing at all.
May God rest Metsihet’s soul in peace in heaven, protect Ezra, and forgive Sirak’s!
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June 6th, 2008 at 1:05 PM
First of all my condolence goes to her beloved family. What a terrible tragedy!!! Three lives destroyed because of on lame decision. “Only God Can Judge me, Nobody else.” This is what happens when a mere man wants to occupy God’s throne by taking things into his own hand. We have to open up our eyes and see that the darkness is even getting darker. The horrible time the bible predicted long ago is up on us. “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.” 2 Timothy 3:1-5
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June 6th, 2008 at 1:25 PM
I am sorry to hear about this sad incident and my condolence to the grieved.
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June 6th, 2008 at 1:27 PM
my heart goes out to the victim of this tragedy and her innocent son. What a shocking news!!
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June 6th, 2008 at 2:16 PM
This has been happening to Ethiopian and Eritrean community everywhere in North America and Europe. One thing is for certain, there is a cultural shock experienced by the men. They are having hard time absorbing that shock and making it work for themselves, I bet you he killed her because she showed some frustration toward his attitude to get up and run. She has been in the US longer than he has, and he feels she is undermining him and she feels he is not adopting fast enough. Many women who go back home and marry their past lover experience the same trouble once the man comes to the foreighn land. It is best if they immigrate together and lear the culture together or the man bring the woman.
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June 6th, 2008 at 2:32 PM
this is one of many bad side of away from home town.
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June 6th, 2008 at 2:52 PM
I am very sorry to here this tragedy.let us get togther and form a helping hand for EZRA.
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June 6th, 2008 at 3:19 PM
I am very sorry to hear this tragedy let us get togther to give a helping hand to EZERA.AS you know they need fincial support.
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June 6th, 2008 at 3:28 PM
My condolences to her family and rest in peace to her, It is sad.
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June 6th, 2008 at 3:30 PM
My condolances for all Ethiopians who hear and read this tragdedy. What a Tragedy. What is happening to us. Are we, such a horrible and terrible bunch of people? What happen to our respect to our humanbeings?, let alone for our Spouse? I think I know, and I believe for the last thirty-five years we have adopted such behaviour as killings for no reason. Our parents may have fought with foreigners and may have killed someone for reason, to keep their country intact in freedom. Our parents were careful for sacred and dear humanlife.
I come to believe that, the new generation have adopted the killing-machine behavior from a Soicialist propaganda, “Mother will eat her own Children.” which I abhored when I heard it, when I was in Ethiopia in the 1980′s. There may be some matcho tradition and traits in our vein that boild once a while. We have to stop it. We must learn to hehave and learn to live, sometimes it seems, in a cnfused and reverse lifestyle in this country. Most of us well adopted to live comfortably with this lifestyle. I do not have any problem. But for a new comer from men knows better way of life, we have to be careful and we must orient and teach, such is life in the United States of America. We have to tell it, like it is. We should not lie, there back home, or here, how we live. If we tell the truth, may be someone can be spare from falling.
I am terribly sad, because I know some of us are angry people. I can sense some anger and frustration in our everyday lives. I observe, in our social, political and econmic participiation, we behave like my-way is the highway behaviour. If someone disagree with us he/she is evil and he/she must be destroyed. Some of us spend our time drniking and smoking heavely to reliefe our frustration. Such is the world we live in.
We have to learn to help and councel eathother. No one can be our councel, since we are peculiar people, We are not open. It may have been an asset in our parents’ time. That is why foreigners did not understand Ethiopians and did not pentrate the highland of Ethiopia and colonize us . I also know that, most of Ethiopian (us} are decent humanbeings. We just need strong community, counceling, and helping One another. I remember, in my economic class, when we were discussing some tragedy such as this, he said, all of us are 15% insane,85% normal. when the 15% takes over, we do not know what we do. That is the time we kill, destroy and do bad things. I remember this all the time, and I walk away, when someone confronts me with anger, for nothing. If you wake awawy that anger will dissipate in a few minutes. I want each one of you to walk away from a small infraction of mistakes, that can be big sad consequence.
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June 6th, 2008 at 4:21 PM
No matter the cause of the disagreement You don’t deserve to die like this
Rest In Peace Metsi
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June 6th, 2008 at 4:51 PM
dont judge by your own verdict. please…we dont know what made him kill her. there must be a case which made him take her life and decide to this extent. we know that people not only kill other people for some reason but also they kill themselves. therefore, let us put our selves in to their position and judge after knowing the real story between them
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June 6th, 2008 at 5:48 PM
Thank you for your service in posting her picture.
she was a young lovely mother who is too young to die.
it is very hard to judge and blame as this issue is very personal with both individuals. one thing is true, the action taken is very barbaric. he could have seen other option of divorce to survive.
let her soul rest in peace.
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June 6th, 2008 at 5:53 PM
I’m so sorry for you, toddler Ezra; your mother worked hard to bring your father to America so that you can grow up comfortable, happy, proud, and self confident in the presence of both your dad and your mom. Unfortunately, it didn’t workout that way because your dad for some unknown reason had killed you mother by chocking her.
My great concern now is for you, not for your mother because she will never come back, and the good Lord will comfort her soul in heaven. In the mean time, you are lucky you have a father; of course, it will be hard to live with your mother’s killer. I hope someone will come up and open his/her door for you so that you can grow up comfortably and without fear, and may the Almighty God gives you a second mother that loves you so much and cares for you.
Dear Gebeyehu, why did you do this cruelty to your son’s mother? Your evil action has left your son motherless, and most of us Ethiopians in diaspora could not comprehend your senseless behavior – a behavior that lacks the kindness and patience of many other Ethiopians. Your ruthless act has destroyed not only your wife but the good reputations of many other Ethiopians in diaspora. May God forgive your sin because killing a sin?
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June 6th, 2008 at 6:33 PM
may your soul rest in peace,Ezra God will always be with you
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June 6th, 2008 at 10:08 PM
She was a very good friend of mine, she is very hard worker, lovely. It is hard for me to belivie this she nevr deserve this oh my God, please help her families and her kid. thank you Elais for your information. I belivie every body get lesson from this.
God bless ethiopian’s and Ethiopia
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June 6th, 2008 at 10:52 PM
This sounds like a heat of the moment thing, and definitely a passion killing. They were both young couple driven by passion and love for each other and as they say there a fine line between love and hate(murder).
I do not know the specific nor do I care to speculate, but the untimely loss of human life is always tragic and feel deeply for the son. He will grow not knowing he had a wonderful mother who worked hard to give him a better life and he will be denied the love of his father for ever.
This is not the time or the place for cheap shots and wild accusations. However, as a man, I would like to add this – most men that I know, married Ethiopian men, here in this place, at one time or another, have surely entertain the anger of killing their spouse, only if they can get away with it!!!
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June 6th, 2008 at 11:36 PM
what a terrible tragedy.my heart goes out to her family and friends. Metsi didn’t deserve this. Ezra, I know you have a lovely family who loves and more than willing to care for you. You will be ok little man. Rest in peace Metsi!
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June 7th, 2008 at 12:13 AM
A very sad story and very disturbing – there is an under current fundamental issue psychological issue amongist most of us moving out of the country – immagine most of those born during the regime of Mingistu and the banda meles are now in their thirties – they no nothing but cruelty – killings torture and terrorism – one can imagine growing up in continuous fear and insecurity. Coming here to the US and living among seemingly normal people is hard to adapt – we need a strong community where these people can get the right orientation and transition.
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June 7th, 2008 at 1:16 AM
I am so sory about her and my heart is beroken.
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June 7th, 2008 at 1:24 AM
I feel really sad for baby Ezra. May God keep you safe and sound baby. My son’s
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June 7th, 2008 at 5:37 AM
i feel really sad for meshate, baby ezra & her family
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June 7th, 2008 at 8:46 AM
Its so sad to hear this mother of one die this way,my deepest condolences to her family, the DV generation needs some kind of councling i think,come on ppl lets not be a generation who kills it self. REST IN PEACE Metsihet.
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June 7th, 2008 at 3:03 PM
It is very sad, indeed. However, for any one who loves life there is a lot to learn. Stop and try to conceive what made Gebeyehu do this.
Ladies: be yourselves. Keep your dignity. Live humble.In normal circumstances, he(Geb..) knew that she is very important, if the worst comes, for his son. But something unbearable must have happened for him to tress pass all the connection and commit murder.
The bottom line. Men: forgive your woman or go far away.
Women: do not full yourself. Better be yourself. Do not let other people p in u.
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June 7th, 2008 at 6:28 PM
Don’t have a word to explaine…….??????????????????????????/
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June 7th, 2008 at 7:36 PM
I was shocked when I heard about what happened. It’s sad…. At the same time I was disgusted by some of the comments made in this website. I strongly urge all of us not to be judgmental. Mind you, none of us were there….if you feel sorry, you can still make a difference by supporting their son, Ezra.
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June 7th, 2008 at 8:37 PM
As a mother of a 3 year old boy, I can not imagine what this little boy is going through (boys are very close to their moms). What a tragedy! My heartfelt condolence to her family. Does anyone have info about organized effort to collect some funds for her funeral expenses?
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June 7th, 2008 at 10:03 PM
it is truly a devestating time. no one should ever die for something that is simply preventable. my heart goes out to little ezra, and to her family as well.
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June 7th, 2008 at 10:27 PM
I can’t belive it coz iknow sirak how much was he loved his wife mesthet however i’m praing for them a little kid EZERA save place from our GOD. GOD BLESSED EZERA.
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June 8th, 2008 at 12:37 AM
What a tragedy. My condolences to the family. May Mesthet rest in peace. The Almighty God, our Father, will certainly take good care of Ezra. In the future, when married couples migrate to the USA at different times, who ever comes late should make his/her 1st US visit to Ethiopian Community Centers for a brief orientation about life in the USA. Presumabley, the centers are in a position to address family related issues of this sort.
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June 8th, 2008 at 3:25 AM
This is a tragedy for both wife and husband. I am very much sadend by this kind of repeated bad news in our community. I DO NOT GO TO THE SO CALLED ETHIOPIAN ORTHODOX CHURCH. If all of these churchs have done their proper duty as the church, these two young husband and wife would have not lost their lives. THIS IS A MATTER OF SPIRITUAL STRENGTH, MORAL, DIGNITY AND SO ON SOFORTH THAT THE CHURCH SHOULD HAVE PROVIDED TO SAVE LIVES OF THE YOUNG AND THE OLD, THE MAN AND THE WOMEN, THE WIFE AND THE HUSBAND. CHURCH GOERS YOU SHOULD DEMAND THESE FROM YOUR CHURCH ORGINAZATIONS; THAT IS FROM THE PRIEST, MONK, DICONE, ETC. YOU SHOULD NOT JUST ALWAYS BLAME THESE ON GOD AND DEVIL THEN BLAME EACH OTHER. ANY WAYS IF THE CHURCH DO NOT REACH OUT THE ETHIOPIAN DIASPORA WHY DOES IT EXIST IN THE UNITED STATES? IS’NT IT THE CHURCHES RESPONSIBILITY TO INSTALL AND INGRAVE PEACE AND LOVE IN EVERY EHTIOPIANS MIND SET. I HOPE YOU DO NOT KEEP ON ACCEPTING THE ETHIOPIAN CHURCH AS ONE OF THE BUSINESS ENTITY. I SAY ALL THESE BECAUSE IF THEY DO STAND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD THEY ALL SHOULD REACH OUT AND DO THE GODS WORK NOT THE DEVILS WORK. SAVE THE ETHIOPIAN COMMUNITY IN ANY WAY AT ANY COST. WE SHOULD SAY NEVER, NEVER AGAIN. THE ETHIOPIAN CHURCH GOERS I URGE YOU, YOU SHOULD TAKE OVER YOUR CHURCHES AND SAVE THESE KIND OF PEOPLE FROM HURTING EACH OTHER.
GOD BLESS ALL OF US SIDETEGNAS, NATURALIZED CITIZENS, GREEN CARD HOLDERS, DIVERSITY VISA HOLDERS, ASYLIS YOU NAME IT WE ALL ARE IN THE SAME CATAGORY LETS US NOT KID OURSELVES OKAY.
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June 8th, 2008 at 10:50 AM
Just to throw some insider’s light upon you…
Metsie or her killer are not of the “dv generation,” whatever that is supposed to mean. Soon after Ezra was born, Metsie moved to Russia to work in the Ethiopian Embassy at Moskva; then she came to the US seeking asylum. She worked day and night – often at the risk of her health – to be able to reunite with her baby and her husband; and, thanks to her perseverance, she succeeded.
We were all happy with her and loved her precocious baby Ezra. Her husband was also well liked among us for his good manners and culture. None of us discerned the monster in him until that unfortunate Tuesday.
Metsie was hoping to go to school once her husband stands on his two feet and starts supporting the family. We thought hers was going to be a happily-ever-after ending, but this tragedy struck within seven months of the happy family reunion.
Currently Ezra is staying with Metsie’s sister, but I doubt that the authorities will let her keep him.
We may never know what happened between them but Metsie and her exuberant smile are gone forever; the life of little Ezra is shattered; and those of us who knew her lovely personality are left with deep wounds in our hearts.
May she rest in peace.
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June 8th, 2008 at 10:51 AM
Of curse I do blame, get hiz itchy azz in prison! period, no mater how angry or what every state of mind u call, who are u to kill?
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June 9th, 2008 at 12:48 AM
What a tragedy. My condolences to the family and May she rest in peace.
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June 9th, 2008 at 12:52 AM
my people please let us pray and seek the Lord, he is the only way to peace. “he is the king of peace”
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June 9th, 2008 at 10:09 AM
It is not a judgment but there is noway to kill someone you love after what she did for him and her baby.what happend in US what let halp the kids. now let find the way to help the kid.
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June 9th, 2008 at 3:47 PM
What a terrible news is it? Firs of all, I need to extend my deep condolonce to the rest the family. Ethiopians are famous for their good morality, descipline, well manner and beautyful culture. I read all of the messages which have been posted so far. some contain fair comments and full condolence to the family, which are understandable.Few comments contain a little dissapointment. As far as this is concerned, my message to all ethiopian’s brothers and sisters is this kind of incident happens one probabaly in thousands ratio. This is not common in Ethiopian community nor the murderer (her husband ) does not represent the rest of the ethiopian population. Please, do not try to come up to the conclusion that this is a common practice to our community. I hope the same incident would never happen again. We strongly condemned this inhuman act. However, this coud not be the beggining to loose our world wide reputation.
Lulu
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June 9th, 2008 at 4:12 PM
Dear Yager sew, let me start by saying, God bless her soul and also God have mearcy on her husband for doing this action of evil. But above all, God bless their beloved son Ezra and may our Almighty protect him from all evil and make him become a better person. If the family member of this chil need help, let the rest of us (the Ethiopians) be open minded and extend our hospitality like our fathers did in the past! God bless Ethiopia and her Childeren!!! Amen!!!!!
P.S. In regards to any support of this family, can some one who is clother to baby Ezra and the next care giver of him come forward and post thier address and tel#, so that we can indelge ourselves in assisting them??????
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June 9th, 2008 at 5:58 PM
መጼው አምላክ ነብስሽን በገነት ያኑረው
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June 9th, 2008 at 8:41 PM
It was very unfortunate about the situation at hand that occurred. A hard working Ethiopian women who had a dream of living the American dream with her husband. A beautiful life taken away to easily. My condolences to the family and friends.
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June 10th, 2008 at 5:08 PM
This is such a sad sad news. We can’t put the blame on the husband nor the wife. We don’t know what was going on b/n them so it is not good to prejudge before knowing the situation. Let’s all pray for baby Ezra and for his dad. God has taken his mom……..
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June 10th, 2008 at 7:38 PM
I am as shocked as anyone in our Ethiopian community in Arlington. I have visited Lalibela several times to enjoy the cusine and the dancers displaying our beautiful culture. I was often served by Metsie and found her to be a beautiful person who represented Ethiopia at its finest. I knew that she was a very hard worker who always served with a smile. We often spoke about our homeland and she missed her husband and Ezra. I was so proud of her when she saved enough money to be reunited with her family. I saw her as recently as the Saturday before she was murdered. Several of my friends met there to celebrate a birthday and we enjoyed her company. The sad part to me is that everyone who has known her personally has said good things about her but now after her death, I hear people speculating and creating rumors about what she might have been doing before he came. Why are people saying unfounded things about Metsie now? She had a good reputation and loved her family. Why are our people asking if she was dating someone or doing something immoral? If that was the case, why would she work day and night trying to bring her husband here to be with her? Please preserve the sweetest memories of Metsie and know that she was a child of God who loved her family and loved life. The tragedy is that this might shatter three families. Her husband’s family, Metsie’s family, and Ezra’s remaining life without loving parents.
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June 10th, 2008 at 9:11 PM
IT IS SO SAD TO HEAR ABOUT THE LOSE OF OUR SISTER. NO MATTER WHAT STORY THE INCIDENT MIGHT HAVE BEHIND WE SHOULD ALL SUPPORT ISRA AND THE FAMILY.
GOD BLES HER SOLE!
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June 10th, 2008 at 10:26 PM
Helu
May you rest in peace!
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June 11th, 2008 at 1:24 PM
egzyabher nefsuane yemarew be semaye bete
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June 11th, 2008 at 2:45 PM
tg it is so sad
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June 11th, 2008 at 5:37 PM
So hard to believe, I looked it up in the Arlington Police database and there it is
http://www.arlingtonva.us/Departments/Police/crimereport/ViewDetail.asp?report_index=1290&report_date=6/4/2008
ATTEMPTED MURDER – ARREST, 6/3/2008, 1200 block of S. Thomas St. At approximately 10:18 am on June 3, officers responded to an apartment for a reported domestic dispute. A 26 year old woman was found lying on a bedroom floor, with injuries to the head and neck. She was treated on scene by medics and transported to a local hospital where she remains in grave condition. The victim’s husband, Sirak Manbegirot, 28, of Arlington, was later arrested and charged with Attempted Murder. He is being held without bond in the Arlington County Detention Facility.
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June 11th, 2008 at 7:18 PM
It is not a judgment but there is no way to kill someone you love after what she did for him and her baby. Please try to help the kid as much as possible. O my GOD!
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June 11th, 2008 at 9:25 PM
WOW its really shoking news and pls for all of us before we doing something we have to think twice .I was reading all the comments above and some of them left Unnecessary message which is not Expect from our Society what if, if this happend on your sis or bro so don’t judge him . i don’t know what to say “MAY GOD GAVE HIM MERCY “and My condolences to the family that’s it………………….Pls lets love , respect ,help eachother
may your soul rest in peace
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June 12th, 2008 at 1:19 PM
betam yasaznal miskin tazaznalech sew hono ymaysasat yalem meweyayet efthe nebere gin min yadergal ahun eswa alfalech
lijachew gin betam tazaznaelch chigrnew.geta ykir ybelew .
betam yasaznal miskin tazaznalech sew hono ymaysasat yalem meweyayet efthe nebere gin min yadergal ahun eswa alfalech
lijachew gin betam tazaznaelch chigrnew.geta ykir ybelew .
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June 12th, 2008 at 1:39 PM
እግኅአበር ነፈሳን ይማረው
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June 12th, 2008 at 3:12 PM
I am shocked and suddened by this tragedy. My deepest heartfelt condolences to every one involved in this sad news. I hope Ezra will find a warm home to grow up normaly despite the loss of two potentially loving parents. Let us leave the judgement to the laws of the land and the ultimate judge God.
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June 12th, 2008 at 10:05 PM
Metsie’s service will be held Saturday June 14, 2008 at the KIDANE-MIHRET ORTHODOX TEWAHDO CHURCH in Alexandria, VA from 9:00 AM to 10:00 AM.
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June 13th, 2008 at 12:08 AM
Address and time of the service:
Saturday June 14, 2008
9:00am to 10:00am
HAMERE NOAH KIDANE-MEHRET CHURCH
75 S. Bragg St.
Alexandria, VA 22312
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June 13th, 2008 at 12:46 AM
በጣም ያሳዝናል አትፍረዱ ይፈረድባችሁዋል.
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June 13th, 2008 at 1:39 AM
I feel sorry for the son and her family. Her husband should of just walked out, but he didn’t and he went the evil and now he has to suffer the consequences. I don’t feel sorry for him at all.
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June 13th, 2008 at 10:11 AM
በጣም አስደንጋጭ ነገር ነው:: ሰው ለማሰብ የተሰጠውን ዐይምሮ ለምን እንደማይጠቀምበት አይገባኝም:: ነፍሳን በገነት ያኑራት:: እሱም የጁን ያገኛል::
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June 14th, 2008 at 5:44 AM
what a shocking story. May God be with her Son and family.
For Meku
we all should know that marriage is a consentual agreement between parties. things might change in the way, you try to work it out if not move on because it is the end of the world. there is life after that marriage ends alsi you need to give yourself a chance to live also the other person. special if Kids are involved you might not care but the kids needs their Mother and Father in their life.
In any case killing is not the answer we are in year 2008. we should know better. if nothing eals she was the mother of his son. who is going to raise this poor kid he lost both of them.
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June 16th, 2008 at 5:17 PM
what a tragdy!!!please Love each other unconditionally. love is not hurmful.
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June 23rd, 2008 at 2:01 AM
we love you for ever god bless you keep you heaven we always pray to you and your family ok you was a very good working women in your life things will happen sudnely any way peace and lovely rest for you we will not forget your smile forever
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June 23rd, 2008 at 2:04 AM
yohannes teklu from Ethiopia
i just don’t understand what’s happening in you(so called) ethiopians out zer. a single man’s act is becoming a behaviour of a country. you know what? it’s also a shame for all of us.every body believes zat such kind of act is a devil’s wish , but we don’t have to justify it cause it’s god’s (jesus’s or allah’s) decision. as ethiopian, what we have to do is pray pray & pray to make our country as well as ze world blessed.
yesew bet yesew new yikr tebabalu!
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June 24th, 2008 at 2:38 AM
Jesus Christ,
I know her and her family personally. I am really, really sorry this happened to her and her family. Gobez, hold out your temper!
Gudegnaw
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June 24th, 2008 at 5:30 AM
I have seen similar tendency with my sister’s husband towards her. She brought him from ET after a lot of pushing. Now i am warning her about a possible trajedy simmering before her own eyes.
People, my message to you is that never ever force a relationship to occur. let it happen naturally with no effort at all.
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June 24th, 2008 at 10:55 AM
As the bible say, “when a man/woman die, their plan also perish. It is not the loss of the body of a mother, husband and son that is lost but the original plan of the family. Why the mother work hard to bring her husband and son and the son and the father travelled from a distant land for such senseless end? Why not we Erhiopian control our temper no matter what the offense could be from the other side and try to solve probles between us in a civilized way?. Remember! patience and fortitude conqure every thing.
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June 24th, 2008 at 3:35 PM
I would like to say something to Ato Damtew on your No. 35 comment. You think those who were born during Mengistu Regime are who have problems? I don’t think so. It’s we, who gave them birth during Mengistu who are mentally sick, in our early twenties had suffered seeing dead bodies on the streets, red terror, killing each other specially after killing saying killed by mistake so on & so forth….etc..Almost all Ethiopians didn’t have any idea of poletics & changes of Govn’t. Everything was new for us, we didn’t know what was going on, we were all confused even our parents. But our parents, who almost finished their half of a century lives when the Military govern’t started, means who are now in their seventies and eighties and most of them already gone. Our age now is their ages (34 years ago) arround the fall of H.E.M.H.S.I. Regime. So if we see deep, how negative things are getting worse and worse, during the Emperor only students used to go out exactly for four years after completing 12th grade that was it & very normal. and those students mostly were from the High Rank family; few from the lower, if they ever get the chance of scholarship which was very rare. I remember those who were in the U.S. for 2,3, years waiting for some time left to come the Military goven’t overthrew the Emperor and they were told to stay wherever they were because situations were not safe…… To make the long story short, students who used to be sent to the States couldn’t wait to go back to Ethiopia. They used to count not the year but every single day. Nobody was willing to go out of our country whether poor or rich. Look now we see just the opposite. Even people who have never seen the Capital City (Addis A.)are here; means at that time no body wanted to move from whatever they have & wherever we lived we were fully satisfied. Now the same generation, which is ours some of us stayed there and some wanted to go out wherever it is we didn’t care…Africa, Europe, East, Far East, U.S.A. Hell ……name it… as long as not Ethiopia no matter where?????? I don’t really understand, even this is not normal. What does this indicate? “I’ll just go and see what I can do for living, for raising-up my children, for my marriage life, as a single woman or man….blindly. So the same generation back home because they didn’t get the chance or didn’t want to go out whatever the reason is doesn’t mean they’re not frustrated or depressed; They are, we all are. So wherever we are, out or inside Ethiopian those kids born at that time,or were 3, 4 years old trust me we didn’t give them the proper necessities they were supposed to get since our mind is full of negative thinking, bitter, we hardly say positive things to eachother…..All these are because of our background our boyhood & girlhood is dark age. They took it from us we were like a bridge between our parents and our children. It’s we who are the LOST GENERATION not our kids. Maybe because of us they too might be lost; yes they are & will. Unless we do something right now try to work on it very hard things won’t get better. As one of our brothers blamed the Ethiopian Orthodox Churches in the Metro Politan Area, I also put the blame on our medias, the radio stations. Saturday, Sunday we have more than enough stations as far as I know. Although after 1997 Eth.Cal.I am not interested the way I used to. But instead of blaming, insulting each other, the priests political parties which doesn’t lead them anywhere as we already saw….. try to give lessons like the difference between parents and kids- raised up here; that they have different mentalities, that parents who should try to change not their kids, we brought them here where they spend most of their time with the culture they are in. Instead of making them understand what we want them to do, we should try to lesten to what they’re trying say; to discuss the matter so that they won’t develope unger & bitterness…etc just like us. Anyway, this needs a meeting or something serious than this….We reach no where with the fanatic traditional concept I tell you. In the first place we shouldn’t bring them here or give birth here if we do….Hai!!! When you are in Rome act like the Romans….. This is really a very serious issue that will never stop unless we do something we talk & talk &….never stops Let’s try to use our radio stations and to teach & learn with eachother before things go out of hand please please .
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June 26th, 2008 at 3:20 PM
LORD HAVE MERCY, CHRIST HAVE MERCY, LORD HAVE MERCY- Alleluya Amen
EBAKEH AMLAK HOY TAREKEN BEKACHEHU BELEN, YENAT ABATACHEN AMLAK BALADEGNBET MEDER EGNAM LEJOCHACHENEM TESEKAYEN. AGERACHEN SELAM HONA YEMETETERANEN GIZE KERB ADERGELEN. KETATACHEN ENDIGETA FEKADEH YEHUN – YABREHAM AMLAK, YEYAKOB AMLAK, YEYOSEPH AMLAK HOY TEMATSENEN. EMEBETACHEN DENGEL MARIAM HOY LEMEGNELEN AMEN.
EBAKACHEHU ENTSELEY EGZIO ENEBEL YETSELOT GIZE NEW KEMETABEN MEAT YESEWREN ZEND ENEBERKEK KELEBACHEN – ADERA ADERA. TSELOT BETCHA NEW MEFTEHEW LELAW WAGA YELEWUM AYENEW TAGELNEW MESLON. MENGEDU TSELOT BECHA HONUWAL.
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June 26th, 2008 at 4:08 PM
እየተስተዋለ………..
እንደ እኔ አመለካከት የቱንም አይነት ወንጀል ብትፈጽም በባሏ ልትገደል አይገባትም ።
ነገር ግን ለጠቅላላ እውቀት ይሆን ዘንድ ለግድያ ምክንያት የሚሆኑ ነገሮችንም መጠንቀቅ እንዳለብን ለማስታወስ ያክል እሷ ከሃገር ቤት ማምጣቷን እንደትልቅ ውለታ መቁጠር የለብንም…ምክንያቱም ሰው በድህነቱም ቢሆን ክብሩን እና ትዳሩ የሰመረለት እንዲሆን ይፈልጋል።በአብዛኛው በአውሮፓ እና በአሜሪካ በወንዶች እና በሴቶች ላይ የሚታይ በትዳር ላይ የመማገጥ ነገር በስፋት ይስተዋላል።ይህ ነው እንግዲህ አብዛኛውን ጊዜ ለግድያ መንስኤው።በ እሱ ላይ ሌላ ደርባ ጦጣ ስታደርገው እሱ ደግሞ በሰይጣን ባህሪው ተገፋፍቶ መገላገል እያለ መታገልን ይመርጥና ይገድላታል።መፍትሄው ግን መለያየት እና ሁሉም የራሱን ኑሮ መኖር ነበር።
ወይም ሴቶች የወጭ ሃገርን ህግ ተንተርሰው በወንዶች ላይ ዛቻ ስለሚያደርጉ ወደፉት ከሚጠብቃቸውን የህግ መንገላታት የተረፍን መስሎአቸው አንዳንድ ራስ ወዳዶች የዚህን አይነት እርምጃ እንደመፍትሄ ይወስዱታል።
እናም እባካችሁ ለትዳራችሁ ታማኝ ሁኑ።ለገንዘብ እና ለጊዜያዊ ሰይጣናዊ ፍቅር ብላችሁ ከሌላ ጋር እንደፌንጣ እየዘለላችሁ የሰው ደምብዛት አትቀስቅሱ።
ይህ ምክር ለወንዱም ለሴቱም ሲሆን ምናልባትም ለአንዳንዶቻችሁ ተራ ነገር ሊመስል ይችላል…..ውጤቱ ግን አንድ ቀን እንደዚህ የከፋ ይሆናል…ሴቶችም በተራቸው……። እናም እየትስተዋለ…….ደግሞ አጉል አዛኝ አንሁን…የችግሩን መንስኤ አውቀን ዘላቂ መፍትሄ መፈለግ እንጅ ሰው ተገደለ በተባለ ቁጥር ከ አልጋ እየወደቁ ከንፈር መምጠጥ የአንዞ እንባ አይነት ነው የሚሆነው እናም…እየተስተዋል…….
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June 28th, 2008 at 2:58 AM
what a sick men !!!!!!!!
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June 30th, 2008 at 10:53 PM